There are moments in life when everything shifts, internally first, and then, if we’re brave enough, externally too. This is one of those moments. And as promised, I said I would bring you along 💜
Last time I wrote, I shared that we were preparing to visit Vancouver Island to explore and begin the search for our next home. I’m writing this now as we head back on the ferry, the sun sparkling across the water.
We lucked out with the weather, nearly every day gifted us sunshine, and it created the perfect backdrop for a trip filled with clarity, and unexpected moments of magic ✨
While we don’t have all the answers, what I do have is a journal full of reflections, synchronicities, and soul whispers to share with you. Because this move? It’s not just logistical.
It’s deeply spiritual.
Emotional.
Transformational.
It’s about aligning with a life that’s been calling for years. Maybe my whole life. And letting that quiet inner voice rise above the noise of fear and doubt.
As I continue to walk this in-between space, here are 10 truths that have emerged through this lived experience of following the heart into the unknown.
I’ve paired each one with a real story from our recent visit:
1. USE A JOURNAL AS YOUR REFLECTIVE INCUBATOR
Document your thoughts, growth, resistance, inspiration, and synchronicities. You’ll want to remember how far you’ve come.
I try to write everyday. Some entries only a few thoughts, others many pages. All of them help me process and trust the unfolding. I recently bought a mini photo printer to pair images with my words; it’s turned my journal into a visual storybook of this sacred transition.
My journal is a container for not just what’s happening externally, but what I’m learning internally - the shifts, the questions, the moments that feel like turning points. When I read back, I can actually see the transformation happening in real time. It’s really cool actually.
Your journal becomes the map back to yourself where you can see your growth.
2. SET CLEAR INTENTIONS, THEN STAY OPEN AND FLEXIBLE
Let how you want to feel guide you more than any fixed outcome.
Before arriving, I reflected on how I wanted to feel: grounded, intuitive, connected.
That intention became my anchor.
We didn’t have a strict plan or expectation to find a home, we came to explore, get familiarized, gather clarity and have some fun.
Being there in person allowed the vision to begin crystallizing. We drove around neighbourhoods, strolled along the beaches, popped into local coffee shops, and walked trails. The clarity didn’t come from any one big moment, but from layering experience on top of intention.
Clarity lives in the lived experience, not the plan.
3. TRANSFORMATION UNFOLDS IN THE PROCESS, NOT THE DESTINATION
Be where your feet are. The becoming is already happening.
This trip wasn’t about arriving, it was about deepening into the experience. Watching gentle waves roll in as I sipped coffee reminded me that this is the sacred middle. It’s not about rushing to a finish line. It’s about being present for each unfolding step.
I’ve spent so much of my life striving for outcomes, rushing toward clarity, hoping for the big reveal. Fleeting.
This process has shown me that richness lives in the waiting, the wondering, the space between.
4. YOU DON’T NEED TO KNOW ALL THE STEPS TO BEGIN
The path reveals itself one brave step at a time.
So much is still uncertain - logistics, contracts, paperwork after 18 months in the hiring process. But this trip was our way of stepping into the vision. We shifted from dreaming to materializing by simply showing up and exploring.
Clarity comes in motion. Despite not having every duck in a row, we felt called to go. And that call was enough. Being on the land, walking through homes, feeling the energy of different places, it all helped us embody the future we’re moving toward!
Sometimes the next step is just showing up.
5. NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU PLAN, IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN IN A STRAIGHT LINE
What’s meant for you doesn’t need perfect timing, just your presence.
We’d planned viewings and watched listings for months. But the market moves fast, and most homes were pending before we even arrived. Of the five we saw, four didn’t feel quite right.
It was hard not to feel discouraged.
I had to keep reminding myself that the right home won’t miss us. That our energy matters just as much as our strategy. In the end, we let go of needing to control it all, and that’s when things shifted.
The detours are part of the path.
6. PAY ATTENTION TO THE SIGNS AND SYNCHRONICITIES
The universe speaks through symbols. Are you listening?
The fourth home we viewed already had an offer, but the owners were kind enough to let us come take a look in case we wanted to submit our own. As soon as we pulled into the driveway, something clicked. There was an ease, a subtle curiosity.
Inside, the clock on the oven & microwave blinked 1:11, a number I see often when I’m in alignment. And then I saw it: a book on Haida Gwaii sitting on the coffee table.
It stopped me in my tracks.
This was the very place an intuitive reader had mentioned to me twelve years ago.
I remember thinking, WOW. It was a full-body goosebump moment. A flash of something bigger at play. A breadcrumb.
As we stepped through the living room, kitchen, and out into the backyard, a calm, grounded energy wrapped around us like a soft landing. It felt familiar, safe, expansive. This wasn’t coincidence. It was confirmation. The universe has its own language. And when you’re quiet enough to notice, it speaks clearly.
Trust the goosebumps. Follow the nudges.
7. YOU WILL HAVE MOMENTS WHERE YOU QUESTION EVERYTHING
Your inner saboteur will try to pull you back into what feels safe.
We’re downsizing significantly. We’re moving provinces. Picking up our entire lives and trying something completely different.
That brings up layers of fear.
Could we make it work? Are we making the right choice? Our vision is to simplify - to value lifestyle and experience, not accumulation.
Still, fear shows up. What if we regret it? What if it all blows up in our face?
But as I walked through that home & drove through the area, I felt like I could taste the possibilities. The air felt lighter. My shoulders dropped. I could see the kind of mornings we’d have, the quiet evenings, the freedom of being closer to work and to the ocean & forest trails.
I imagined shedding the clutter - not just the physical stuff, but the mental weight too. I realized that what we’re creating isn’t about square footage, it’s about space to live the way we want to live. And that felt expansive.
Fear is loud, but it doesn’t always tell the truth.
8. YOU’LL BE MEETING YOUR FUTURE SELF IN THE NOW
It might feel strange. That’s not unraveling, it’s up-leveling.
We had planned for a semi-stressful week of house hunting: multiple showings, endless pros and cons lists, big decisions to make.
We got a text while snacking on tuna and crackers in a trail parking lot: the sellers had declined the previous offer and were open to ours. In that moment, everything softened. I felt my future self reach for my hand with quiet confidence - like she had already walked this path and was gently nudging me forward.
It was like she whispered, “This can be easy.”
The decision wasn’t filled with panic or pressure. There was no overthinking or second-guessing. It felt peaceful, natural, like we were simply stepping into something that was already ours. We didn’t have to force it. We said yes from a place of grounded trust, and left space for what might unfold next.
Instead, everything wrapped up by the end of day one, and just like that, our house-hunting mission turned into a full-on mini vacation. We ended up with the rest of the week wide open to explore, relax, and soak in the island lifestyle we came here for.
Sometimes the future shows up in an ordinary moment.
9. GRIEVING WHAT YOU’RE LEAVING BEHIND IS NECESSARY
Joy and grief often travel together. Let both have a place at your table.
Even with the excitement, there’s grief. Of leaving family, friends, familiar routines, deep roots, and the comfort of what’s known. I’ve had moments of guilt, “Who am I to feel this happy? Who am I to live the life I’ve only dreamed of?”.
I’ve spiralled into fear, imagining every worst-case scenario.
My brain tries to prepare me for disappointment, as if joy is something too fragile to trust.
But I’ve learned to let those feelings move through me - to cry, to feel the ache, to hold the joy and sorrow in the same breath. Because joy and grief often arrive together. They walk hand in hand. And there has to be space for both. Saying goodbye to what was is part of honoring what’s to come.
Let yourself feel it all. You’re not doing it wrong 💗
10. YOU ARE BEING SUPPORTED BY UNIVERSE
Look up, and you’ll see it.
The day after the offer was accepted, we wandered into the Cumberland Community Forest, still in awe of how everything had aligned. As we rounded a bend on the trail, a Barred Owl suddenly flew across our path and landed on a low branch just ahead of us. It didn’t flinch. It didn’t flee. It held our gaze for a long time, as if it saw us, truly saw us.
It felt like a quiet, powerful blessing. One of those moments that stops time. The kind that says, in its own wild and wordless way:
You’re being guided ✨
If you’re in the midst of a soul-led shift of your own, I hope one of these truths meets you where you are. This path is not ever perfect, but it is sacred.
Which one of these truths are you walking through right now?
✨ Use a journal as your reflective incubator
✨ Set clear intentions, then stay open and flexible
✨ Transformation unfolds in the process, not the destination
✨ You don’t need to know all the steps to begin
✨ No matter how much you plan, it will never happen in a straight line
✨ Pay attention to the signs and synchronicities
✨ You will have moments where you question everything
✨ You’ll be meeting your future self in the now
✨ Grieving what you’re leaving behind is necessary
✨ You are being supported by the universe
✨ If this resonated, I’d love to hear from you in the comments. Or feel free to share this with someone who’s on the edge of their own becoming.
There are no guarantees when you follow your heart. No roadmap, no certainty. Just possibility, and the courage it takes to trust it.
With you 🙏 in the messy middle,
Jen
I’d love that Jen!!! I’m retired so pretty open.
When do you leave. I am so excited for you both!!! Good for you. I spend time in Comox and hopefully we will keep in touch. I too have been growing and isn’t it just an exciting time to be alive.